My parents valued submission, not  independence, in their daughters. We were not to be wise, we were to be wooed... by a man who would raise his daughters in the very same way.

By the time I was a high school freshman, the typical adolescent rebellion grew into my full blown mutiny. To my parents' horror, my defiance sometimes landed me at keg parties with rock and roll music (Oh No!!), and, once, when I felt especially daring, a clandestine date to the Junior Prom! My parents had no doubt I was on the road to hell.

But, their most dreaded fear was realized in my senior year. I wasn't on drugs, pregnant, or in juvenile hall. No. I wanted to go to college.

My parents feared an education would expose me to the wrong ideas. But, with me persisting, they finally gave up, convincing themselves that if I enrolled at a college sharing their belief system, I would meet plenty of the "right" kind of young men, and earn a MRS. Degree.

Unfortunately, it didn't take long before my thirst for knowledge collided with all of my childhood programming. By thirty, I had twice dropped out of college to marry unsuitable suitors, both with disastrous consequences.

In time, and against all odds, I did earn my Bachelor's and Master's degrees in Psychology, and a credential in Education. Then, I pursued postgraduate research in human development, marriage and family systems, and theories of learning and dynamic change.

But, once again, precious little time passed before my still naïve heart came face to face with all I still didn't know.

After launching my career, I became engaged to a wonderful, sensitive, generous and handsome man. For over two years we had woven a tapestry of love I knew would last a lifetime. But, when four weeks before our wedding, he plucked the first thread in my heart's unraveling, my stunned suffering led to the question "Surely there must be a better way to find love than to give up my soul, with no guarantee that it will survive."

As my mind struggled to answer how I, with degrees and a career in Psychology, had so missed the writing on the wall, my body was silently weaving the grief into my right breast. Six months later, I was miraculously diagnosed with the earliest stage of invasive carcinoma. Having always been healthy, with no family history of cancer, I asked my oncologist how long the cells had been incubating. His answer? "The size of the cells indicate within the last six months." My broken heart and broken health were linked in time.

When your life's wake up call includes the diagnosis, "Cancer," transformation happens.

Personally, my fear of risking my mental and physical health now trumped my longing for love. In other words, out of fear, I just stopped searching.

Professionally, I questioned my ability to help my single female clients when I felt like the blind leading the blind as we both struggled to find the light.

Painfully confronting what is at stake when a woman sells her soul to claim a faux prince, my diagnosis, my anger, and my fear compelled me to search for the secret to safe and nurturing relationship.

Recognizing that the primary reason humans seek a mate is to ensure the survival of our species, surely some of the secret was hidden in our DNA. But, how would science explain our intense, almost insane, longing to belong for a lifetime? And, just as importantly, how would science explain our miserable failure to fulfill what we want most?

My expertise in psychology would provide some answers, but much would be revealed from the vast fields of biology, the neurology of gender differences, and developmental psychology, specifically correlating the effects of childhood experience on adult capacity for intimacy. To crack the code, I needed to simply find the dots and connect them.

During a decade of research, I learned the answers to the following questions:

• How do I tell which men can and which men can't love before I hand over my heart?
• Why do I so often love the men who can't?
• What makes some men lay, lie, then leave?
• Why does settling feel like I've sold out my soul?
• Is it really that important to love myself first?
• Why do my daddy and his mommy matter?
• What's science got to do with it?

The TRUTH about authentic and abiding relationship is found in the biology of bonding, the chemistry of love, and the mesmerizing mysteries of the female and male psyche.

Imagine SCIENCE placing you in the prime position to tell frog from PRINCE! Who knew?

Eventually, my research answered every question. Each answer led me from the scientific facts to a most soulful journey into my self ~ my past, my present, and my future hopes. The journey has been the key to transforming the ultimate question: "Will he like me?" into "Is he worthy of me?" and my life has never been the same.

Today, I am an educator, social activist, women's life coach, relationship researcher and consultant, cancer survivor, and Who's Who of American Women recipient. I am, also, a mother, lover, friend, and woman who has been through some pretty significant stuff.

I have been recognized for my advocacy for human rights and social justice, presented to state legislatures and guest lectured at universities. In 2001, I was invited to present in Washington D.C. in the areas of family and culture.

But, my greatest commitment is to educate and empower you of the Single Sisterhood, for I believe you are primed for a quantum leap from preschool to Ph.D. in learning the truth about love.

Soon, the journey will be yours to follow in my forthcoming book, On Becoming NaughtABimbeaux: The Smart Woman's Guide to Finding Her Prince Without Ever Kissing Another Frog.

But, books take time to write and be published, and your time is precious. I know how lonely every day can be. I know how confused and hopeless a woman who longs for love can feel. So, here at Single Sisterhood, woven into our FROG TALES and other shared stories, chapter previews, journaling questions, Frequently Asked Questions, and so much more, you will learn many of the truths of the Science of Intimacy. And, I guarantee you, your life, EVERY aspect of your life, will begin to be transformed.

You are about to discover all you need to solve the mystery of having and holding authentic love as a woman in the 21st Century. You are about to learn that you hold within you the power that has held men in awe since the dawn of time. More importantly, you are about to learn you already hold within you the woman you want to be.

Blessings on your way,
Morgan

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